This is so good, and so true! I always have lingering feelings of, for example, how a professor or peer was racist towards me. I can feel it as vividly as if it was just a a few moments ago. But sometimes I struggle to recall exactly what it was that happened, or can only retell the story clumsily and with much effort.
This is why I try my best to remember to help people feel good about themselves.* It makes me feel good, which makes it its own reward. _________ *"Help" as in “by showing genuine warmth and interest, and giving honest compliments”—not with phony “cheer up! if you’d just smile you’d feel better.” As one who’s clinically depressed, I know how (un)helpful that is….
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This is so good, and so true! I always have lingering feelings of, for example, how a professor or peer was racist towards me. I can feel it as vividly as if it was just a a few moments ago. But sometimes I struggle to recall exactly what it was that happened, or can only retell the story clumsily and with much effort.
This is why I try my best to remember to help people feel good about themselves.* It makes me feel good, which makes it its own reward.
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*"Help" as in “by showing genuine warmth and interest, and giving honest compliments”—not with phony “cheer up! if you’d just smile you’d feel better.” As one who’s clinically depressed, I know how (un)helpful that is….
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